I hate 2 faced people.....
enough said!
Wednesday, 17 October 2007
Eid Eid Eid
A/S
Last weekend was Eid ul Fitr. This is normally celebrated after a months fasting. Thankfully my fasting went well (I now eat half as much as I used so therefore should lose some weight!!).
Now I was looking forward to Eid because its a day to celebrate, dress up, eat good food, spend the day with friends and family. And every year this celebration is marred by people debating the actual start of Eid.
The islamic calender is lunar based. So a month can be 29 or 30 days. Ramadan (month of fasting) is suppose to last 1 lunar month and Eid ul Fitr follows when the new moon has been sighted.
I dont understand why this has become a topic to debate among muslims. why do we insist on having 20 different interpretatins when Eid is??? Some follow Saudi Arabia. Some follow their nearest mulsim country (Morocco). Some follow their local Mosque. Some look up the moon position on the internet.
I mean its EID!! Stop arguing about whose right and wrong and just celebrate altogether! We cannot be united as 1 nation if people insist on having a billion interpretations for every thing that we do!
(Gets my goat it does!)
Last weekend was Eid ul Fitr. This is normally celebrated after a months fasting. Thankfully my fasting went well (I now eat half as much as I used so therefore should lose some weight!!).
Now I was looking forward to Eid because its a day to celebrate, dress up, eat good food, spend the day with friends and family. And every year this celebration is marred by people debating the actual start of Eid.
The islamic calender is lunar based. So a month can be 29 or 30 days. Ramadan (month of fasting) is suppose to last 1 lunar month and Eid ul Fitr follows when the new moon has been sighted.
I dont understand why this has become a topic to debate among muslims. why do we insist on having 20 different interpretatins when Eid is??? Some follow Saudi Arabia. Some follow their nearest mulsim country (Morocco). Some follow their local Mosque. Some look up the moon position on the internet.
I mean its EID!! Stop arguing about whose right and wrong and just celebrate altogether! We cannot be united as 1 nation if people insist on having a billion interpretations for every thing that we do!
(Gets my goat it does!)
Monday, 6 August 2007
Wedding Blues
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I attended a wedding this weekend ( its not over yet! Reception this Friday!)
I thoroughly enjoyed letting my hair out, dressing up, and slapping on the old war paint. I enjoyed the singing and laughing and gossiping and making new friends.
I didnt enjoy that feeling of wishing I was having a wedding. And I know your thinking that I blogged about not getting married. But I just want to have the wedding without the husband part!
If you have been to an asian wedding before, you would know how wonderful it is. Obviously its all about the bride. Her beautiful outfit, ornate gold jewelry, intricate henna patterned hands, striking make up, and shy demeanour endears her to all who see her.
Then the ladies who attend, dressed in their best to impress! lol ( ooh that rhymes!). Its like being at a fashion show. It gives me and my sisters some ideas for clothes we want to have made.
Anyway the reception is this Friday so Thursday Im going to go out and look for a nice asian suit to wear.
XXX
Friday, 3 August 2007
Lost And Found
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I am deeply sorry for this oh so late post. I promised to be back on the 23rd of July but alas it was not to be!
Reason being that my office flooded on the 2oth July. So for two days I was stcuk on the front desk and then moved into another office on a temp basis. I have been given a desk, drawers and a small cupboard to work from. No computer. That sucks. I have no access to my emails, my work my blog ...NOTHING! After days of to-ing and fro-ing between different departments, I have been allowed to use this computer temporarily.
Although I now have access I wont be using it much so people sorry if i dont post regularly!
I am deeply sorry for this oh so late post. I promised to be back on the 23rd of July but alas it was not to be!
Reason being that my office flooded on the 2oth July. So for two days I was stcuk on the front desk and then moved into another office on a temp basis. I have been given a desk, drawers and a small cupboard to work from. No computer. That sucks. I have no access to my emails, my work my blog ...NOTHING! After days of to-ing and fro-ing between different departments, I have been allowed to use this computer temporarily.
Although I now have access I wont be using it much so people sorry if i dont post regularly!
Friday, 20 July 2007
Im Back!
A/S people!
I am back from my very short holiday. I thoroughly enjoyed myself ( bought the most cutest babycham trainers and brown heels! EEEK!) Anyway I will be at work on Monday so I will definately post a longer erm...post! lol most likely about the last harry potter book because it out tomorrow and im going go collect my copy in the morning
Til then
Au Revoir!
I am back from my very short holiday. I thoroughly enjoyed myself ( bought the most cutest babycham trainers and brown heels! EEEK!) Anyway I will be at work on Monday so I will definately post a longer erm...post! lol most likely about the last harry potter book because it out tomorrow and im going go collect my copy in the morning
Til then
Au Revoir!
Sunday, 15 July 2007
Holiday!
A/S
I have a week off from work woohoo!
So I am spending 4 days in Birmingham visiting my aunt. That may not sound interesting to ome people but believe me its better than the alterntive....being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and being yelled at by my mum for trying to enjoy some time off!!
So I will be back at work on the 23rd July. So leave me a message and let me know were you are ging on holiday this year
XX
I have a week off from work woohoo!
So I am spending 4 days in Birmingham visiting my aunt. That may not sound interesting to ome people but believe me its better than the alterntive....being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and being yelled at by my mum for trying to enjoy some time off!!
So I will be back at work on the 23rd July. So leave me a message and let me know were you are ging on holiday this year
XX
Friday, 13 July 2007
Fashion And Faith
A/S
Im not one of those supercool uber trendy fashionistas. I like to think of my style as casual/funky/studenty tramp! lol
Due to me being a working woman I normally dress smart for my hospital job and wear a uniform for my weekend job. So I try to make a statement with my clothes when I can. I dont want to be a sheep and follow the current trends set by Kate Moss and the likes. I want to wear things that reflect me as a person.
At the moment im loving green. And even though I am at work today, Im wearing a loose green sweater, choc brown linen trousers, cute white plimsols with green flamingoes and bows. OH and not forgetting the oh so important scarf ( multi coloured green stripes!). Ive set off this outfit with white and silver earrings, a diamond ring on 1 hand, chunky silver on the other and silver bracelets! It's still smart but its bright and funky ( would have looked even better if the sun was out and I could have donned my big brown sunglasses, but never mind!).
See as muslims we can dress nicely as long as it is modest and doesnt attract lustful looks from the opposite sex. Which is why a lot of muslim women wear the long dark dresses (known as Jilbabs or Abayas). This completely covers the body and as it is loose it also hides the shape of a woman.
But dont think that this is all these women wear! As a woman we have a right to wear what we want. A lot of my friends wear the same thing that I do. Most are very fashionable and spend quids on key items like sunglasses and bags.
I have been to a few segregated events and wow to the women go all out!
A few years back a strict family friend of ours got married and the event was seperate for men and women. As me and my sisters walked in dressed in our best asian garments, we felt overdressed! All the women had on their jilbabs and niqabs ( face veil). Then after a while these women disappeared to the bathroom and when they returned oh my lord! It was like a complete transformation! They had on the most amazing asian clothes on! Short embroidered and sleeveless tops and full skirts ( outfit known as a Lengha). Not only were the clothes amazing but they had their hair done professionally with glitter and beads and full make up!
Let me tell you that me and my sisters felt underdressed after that!
It made me realise that just because these women look quite plain in their outer clothing, it doesnt mean they are plain. They are just like me and you.
Im not one of those supercool uber trendy fashionistas. I like to think of my style as casual/funky/studenty tramp! lol
Due to me being a working woman I normally dress smart for my hospital job and wear a uniform for my weekend job. So I try to make a statement with my clothes when I can. I dont want to be a sheep and follow the current trends set by Kate Moss and the likes. I want to wear things that reflect me as a person.
At the moment im loving green. And even though I am at work today, Im wearing a loose green sweater, choc brown linen trousers, cute white plimsols with green flamingoes and bows. OH and not forgetting the oh so important scarf ( multi coloured green stripes!). Ive set off this outfit with white and silver earrings, a diamond ring on 1 hand, chunky silver on the other and silver bracelets! It's still smart but its bright and funky ( would have looked even better if the sun was out and I could have donned my big brown sunglasses, but never mind!).
See as muslims we can dress nicely as long as it is modest and doesnt attract lustful looks from the opposite sex. Which is why a lot of muslim women wear the long dark dresses (known as Jilbabs or Abayas). This completely covers the body and as it is loose it also hides the shape of a woman.
But dont think that this is all these women wear! As a woman we have a right to wear what we want. A lot of my friends wear the same thing that I do. Most are very fashionable and spend quids on key items like sunglasses and bags.
I have been to a few segregated events and wow to the women go all out!
A few years back a strict family friend of ours got married and the event was seperate for men and women. As me and my sisters walked in dressed in our best asian garments, we felt overdressed! All the women had on their jilbabs and niqabs ( face veil). Then after a while these women disappeared to the bathroom and when they returned oh my lord! It was like a complete transformation! They had on the most amazing asian clothes on! Short embroidered and sleeveless tops and full skirts ( outfit known as a Lengha). Not only were the clothes amazing but they had their hair done professionally with glitter and beads and full make up!
Let me tell you that me and my sisters felt underdressed after that!
It made me realise that just because these women look quite plain in their outer clothing, it doesnt mean they are plain. They are just like me and you.
Monday, 2 July 2007
Hello!!!
I have been away since the 14th of May and not one person has left me a comment on any of my posts!!
Am I not interesting enough???? Am I boring the masses out there? Shall I give up??? If I dont get a reply by the end of July I am going to close down this account and actually get back to doing some serious work!!!!
Am I not interesting enough???? Am I boring the masses out there? Shall I give up??? If I dont get a reply by the end of July I am going to close down this account and actually get back to doing some serious work!!!!
Monday, 14 May 2007
WORK
A/S
I work in a hospital during the week. Now I have been here since November 2006 and it was cool starting here. But now 6 months down the line I feel frustrated!!! I hate sitting behind this wooden desk from 9.30am to 5.30pm Monday to Friday. I am wasting my time. I am wasting my precious time for a measly £9.31 an hour.
You know what I could be doing with my 35 hours that I waste every week? I'll make a list of 10 things I could do instead!
1) Learn a new language: I always wanted to learn arabic or turkish
2) Relearn a language: I could brush up on my German!
3) Cook wikid meals for the family
4) Hit the gym and tone up all my flabby bits! ( work off the junk I eat)
5) Take up a part time course at college
6) Travel the globe!
7) Volunteer my time to charity
8) Visit all my friends and family who live all over England
9) Explore London: Museums, Galleries, Shops!!!!
10) Spend time with my gorgeous nephew!
BUT!!! Where am I gna get money from???
I work in a hospital during the week. Now I have been here since November 2006 and it was cool starting here. But now 6 months down the line I feel frustrated!!! I hate sitting behind this wooden desk from 9.30am to 5.30pm Monday to Friday. I am wasting my time. I am wasting my precious time for a measly £9.31 an hour.
You know what I could be doing with my 35 hours that I waste every week? I'll make a list of 10 things I could do instead!
1) Learn a new language: I always wanted to learn arabic or turkish
2) Relearn a language: I could brush up on my German!
3) Cook wikid meals for the family
4) Hit the gym and tone up all my flabby bits! ( work off the junk I eat)
5) Take up a part time course at college
6) Travel the globe!
7) Volunteer my time to charity
8) Visit all my friends and family who live all over England
9) Explore London: Museums, Galleries, Shops!!!!
10) Spend time with my gorgeous nephew!
BUT!!! Where am I gna get money from???
Friday, 11 May 2007
Bad weekend
A/s
I had a bad bank holiday weekend....... 3 members of my family died. Although I am generally okay, its upsetting at times because I cant help but think of others peoples pain ( esp as I experienced the death of a sibling when I was 15).
"We granted not to any human being immortality before you, then if you die, would they live forever? Every soul shall have a taste of death; and We test you by evil and by good by way of trial. To Us you will be returned." The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 21, Verses 34-35
"Every self will taste death. Then you will be returned to Us". The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 29, Verse 57
Just reading these verses and thinking about the loved ones who have died is enough to make you think. One day that will be me and you. One day we will be seperated from this world.
Death is something that should always be on our mind.
So for a short while today, think about what you have done. Have you achieved anything? Have you done something you regret? Have you released good karma into the world???
Think about it
I had a bad bank holiday weekend....... 3 members of my family died. Although I am generally okay, its upsetting at times because I cant help but think of others peoples pain ( esp as I experienced the death of a sibling when I was 15).
"We granted not to any human being immortality before you, then if you die, would they live forever? Every soul shall have a taste of death; and We test you by evil and by good by way of trial. To Us you will be returned." The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 21, Verses 34-35
"Every self will taste death. Then you will be returned to Us". The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 29, Verse 57
Just reading these verses and thinking about the loved ones who have died is enough to make you think. One day that will be me and you. One day we will be seperated from this world.
Death is something that should always be on our mind.
So for a short while today, think about what you have done. Have you achieved anything? Have you done something you regret? Have you released good karma into the world???
Think about it
Thursday, 3 May 2007
Friends, Mates, Buddies
A/S
On the way home from work the other day I bumped into an old friend (from school/college days) on the district line platform at mile end. As you do with old friends we spent the journey catching up on each others lives since the last we spoke (which I think was January). It was going really well until we got to the topic of other old friends and whether we are still in contact. Apparently JJ (fit friend) has been trying to get in touch with SM for a while but to no reply which is funny because SM actually called me up about 2 weeks ago arranging to meet up. Now JJ is unsure why SM and another of our mates (lets call her CD) have not bothered to get in contact with her. I am not sure what the exact reasons are for none of us girls getting in contact with each other but I think JJ feels that she is now being excluded. I have advised JJ to keep texting SM and see what happens...........
will update when I have more info
On the way home from work the other day I bumped into an old friend (from school/college days) on the district line platform at mile end. As you do with old friends we spent the journey catching up on each others lives since the last we spoke (which I think was January). It was going really well until we got to the topic of other old friends and whether we are still in contact. Apparently JJ (fit friend) has been trying to get in touch with SM for a while but to no reply which is funny because SM actually called me up about 2 weeks ago arranging to meet up. Now JJ is unsure why SM and another of our mates (lets call her CD) have not bothered to get in contact with her. I am not sure what the exact reasons are for none of us girls getting in contact with each other but I think JJ feels that she is now being excluded. I have advised JJ to keep texting SM and see what happens...........
will update when I have more info
Tuesday, 1 May 2007
My SINGLE status
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How many times have you attended a wedding function where friends and family nudge you and ask that dreaded yet unavoidable ...."So when are you getting married?".
When did it become okay for people to direct this question at me? I know I am nearly 23 with a degree and a decent job but I have never given the inclination that I WANT to get married!
I know getting married is Sunnah as Prophet Muhammad (saw) said "Marriage is my way, (i.e. Sunnah) and a person who disdains to follow my way does not belong to me." I know that sooner or later I will have to marry but I have reasons why I am not ready yet:
1) I am not financially stable
2) I am not emotionally ready for that kind of responsilibility
3) I plan to study a lil longer
4) I dont want to have an arranged marriage
5) I havent found any one who wants to marry me yet!
(ps I have my own room with a double bed which I am not willing to give up just yet)
How many times have you attended a wedding function where friends and family nudge you and ask that dreaded yet unavoidable ...."So when are you getting married?".
When did it become okay for people to direct this question at me? I know I am nearly 23 with a degree and a decent job but I have never given the inclination that I WANT to get married!
I know getting married is Sunnah as Prophet Muhammad (saw) said "Marriage is my way, (i.e. Sunnah) and a person who disdains to follow my way does not belong to me." I know that sooner or later I will have to marry but I have reasons why I am not ready yet:
1) I am not financially stable
2) I am not emotionally ready for that kind of responsilibility
3) I plan to study a lil longer
4) I dont want to have an arranged marriage
5) I havent found any one who wants to marry me yet!
(ps I have my own room with a double bed which I am not willing to give up just yet)
I'm Sick!!!
A/S
I am sick. Its nothing life threatening but enough to make me not want to be sick anymore.
Its not that I mind being sick, but I just get frustrated with myself sneezing all the time, wiping my nose, or trying to stop my head from smacking into my screen because my head feels heavy.
The advantage of being sick (yes there are advantages!) in terms of Islam is that our sins are forgiven and we are given a fresh start by ALLAH. The more we suffer in this life the less we suffer in the afterlife. I would happily suffer all kinds of diseases now than to suffer later on.
So next time you fall ill remember that its a form of blessing and that you should thank ALLAH!
I am sick. Its nothing life threatening but enough to make me not want to be sick anymore.
Its not that I mind being sick, but I just get frustrated with myself sneezing all the time, wiping my nose, or trying to stop my head from smacking into my screen because my head feels heavy.
The advantage of being sick (yes there are advantages!) in terms of Islam is that our sins are forgiven and we are given a fresh start by ALLAH. The more we suffer in this life the less we suffer in the afterlife. I would happily suffer all kinds of diseases now than to suffer later on.
So next time you fall ill remember that its a form of blessing and that you should thank ALLAH!
Thursday, 26 April 2007
Hijab
A/S
I REALLY dont feel like working today so I thought I'll make my third blog nice and lengthy to help use up some time.
Before I start to ramble on about hijab here is a crude definition:
HIJAB: An arabic word meaning "cover". Now this can be used to describe a table cloth or curtains or any other item used to cover things. It is most commonly used to describe a womens head covering.
Now I have been a hijabi since October 2005 at the age of 21 yrs and 2 months.
Although I should have been wearing it at the age of 12, I never fully understood a lot of things about Islam until my second year of University.
I had a diverse group of friends from every race and religion in the world. But the ones that I really got on well with were the "Hijabi Hit Squad". A group of scarf wearing girls who followed Islam but still knew how to have fun. It was good to see a bunch of girls who were normal and not fanatical extremists intent on forcing their faith on anyone. Never did the girls try to talk me into hijab. They accepted me the way I was and that is something I appreciated. The more time I spent with them the more I wanted to wear hijab. But something was holding me back and the funny thing is I didn't know what!
WHY was I finding it hard to put a piece of material on my head? WHAT reasons did I have that justified me keeping my hair on public display??
Simple answer: I loved doing my hair into plaits, ponies, buns, curls, waves, poker straight styles. I loved dyeing my hair a shade of red to compliment my skin tone. I loved cutting my hair short and then growing it long again. But I especially loved the attention from the guys. I know that this is a feeling that many girls relate to. Its not beacuse we are vain or stunning and people cant help but be drawn to us like butterflies to a flower. The truth is we have low self esteem. We are not happy with what God gave us. There is something about us that we hate. It could be a big nose OR hairy eyebrows OR a short stature OR even big boobs. We wish we could change that part so we are more attractive. In truth we cannot change those bits we hate, so instead we overcompensate by enhancing an attribute that we like, such as our eyes, our hair, our slim figure. And when this particular enhanced attribute makes us look more attractive to the opposite gender, we feel beautiful. Bottom line is.... WE FEEL BEAUTIFUL.
Now where does the hijab fit into this? Well hijab is meant to cover, to protect and to liberate. I know I dont feel beautiful in hijab. But I also know that it frees me from vanity, pride, and silly ideology of what beauty really is. A lot of people asked me how I felt after I started to wear one. Did I feel proud that I had taken a big step? Was I scared about peoples reactions? Did I feel different? The honest answer is no to all. Putting on the hijab did not change me as a person. Its because I know I should have done this years ago.
I miss showing off my hair but I still dye it, style it, and cut it and show it off when I am at home or at segregated events. And when I go out I wear my hijab in different ways and in different colours which makes me feel beautiful in a more acceptable Islamic way.
If there are any sisters (muslim or non muslim) out there who want to comment, please do so. I would love to hear other peoples opinions on the veil.
I REALLY dont feel like working today so I thought I'll make my third blog nice and lengthy to help use up some time.
Before I start to ramble on about hijab here is a crude definition:
HIJAB: An arabic word meaning "cover". Now this can be used to describe a table cloth or curtains or any other item used to cover things. It is most commonly used to describe a womens head covering.
Now I have been a hijabi since October 2005 at the age of 21 yrs and 2 months.
Although I should have been wearing it at the age of 12, I never fully understood a lot of things about Islam until my second year of University.
I had a diverse group of friends from every race and religion in the world. But the ones that I really got on well with were the "Hijabi Hit Squad". A group of scarf wearing girls who followed Islam but still knew how to have fun. It was good to see a bunch of girls who were normal and not fanatical extremists intent on forcing their faith on anyone. Never did the girls try to talk me into hijab. They accepted me the way I was and that is something I appreciated. The more time I spent with them the more I wanted to wear hijab. But something was holding me back and the funny thing is I didn't know what!
WHY was I finding it hard to put a piece of material on my head? WHAT reasons did I have that justified me keeping my hair on public display??
Simple answer: I loved doing my hair into plaits, ponies, buns, curls, waves, poker straight styles. I loved dyeing my hair a shade of red to compliment my skin tone. I loved cutting my hair short and then growing it long again. But I especially loved the attention from the guys. I know that this is a feeling that many girls relate to. Its not beacuse we are vain or stunning and people cant help but be drawn to us like butterflies to a flower. The truth is we have low self esteem. We are not happy with what God gave us. There is something about us that we hate. It could be a big nose OR hairy eyebrows OR a short stature OR even big boobs. We wish we could change that part so we are more attractive. In truth we cannot change those bits we hate, so instead we overcompensate by enhancing an attribute that we like, such as our eyes, our hair, our slim figure. And when this particular enhanced attribute makes us look more attractive to the opposite gender, we feel beautiful. Bottom line is.... WE FEEL BEAUTIFUL.
Now where does the hijab fit into this? Well hijab is meant to cover, to protect and to liberate. I know I dont feel beautiful in hijab. But I also know that it frees me from vanity, pride, and silly ideology of what beauty really is. A lot of people asked me how I felt after I started to wear one. Did I feel proud that I had taken a big step? Was I scared about peoples reactions? Did I feel different? The honest answer is no to all. Putting on the hijab did not change me as a person. Its because I know I should have done this years ago.
I miss showing off my hair but I still dye it, style it, and cut it and show it off when I am at home or at segregated events. And when I go out I wear my hijab in different ways and in different colours which makes me feel beautiful in a more acceptable Islamic way.
If there are any sisters (muslim or non muslim) out there who want to comment, please do so. I would love to hear other peoples opinions on the veil.
ME!
A/S
My second post is just going to be a little intro so you know what I am like. I will not be revealing any sordid secrets ( probably coz I have none), just lil things that make me unique!
I'll be turning 23 this year, which makes me sound old but I assure you that many a times I have been mistaken for 18!
I am of Kashmiri descent (Pakistan side). We live in the mountains near the line of control and I tell you it is absolutely stunning.
I am still single (by choice) for two reasons:
I dont feel emotionally or financially ready to settle down (I know its a poor excuse).
I dont know any brothers who are worth getting married to and I dont think I want to marry my mums choice (most likely a cousin from back home whose a lawyer or doctor or something).
I am as you have probably guessed..a HIJABI since 2005!
My 3rd post is on......Hijab!
My second post is just going to be a little intro so you know what I am like. I will not be revealing any sordid secrets ( probably coz I have none), just lil things that make me unique!
I'll be turning 23 this year, which makes me sound old but I assure you that many a times I have been mistaken for 18!
I am of Kashmiri descent (Pakistan side). We live in the mountains near the line of control and I tell you it is absolutely stunning.
I am still single (by choice) for two reasons:
I dont feel emotionally or financially ready to settle down (I know its a poor excuse).
I dont know any brothers who are worth getting married to and I dont think I want to marry my mums choice (most likely a cousin from back home whose a lawyer or doctor or something).
I am as you have probably guessed..a HIJABI since 2005!
My 3rd post is on......Hijab!
Assalamu alaikum!
And hello to u lovelies who have decided to visit my humble blog.
I dont know where to start. I'm not very articulate when it comes to putting fingers to keyboard ( I got a C in GCSE English!!). I just wanted to put down my thoughts regarding me and my religion and the things that I face on a day to day basis. I am not sure if there are any other blogs out there on the same subject but this is for me and anyone else who is bored out of their minds and have nothing better to do than read my drivel!
The subject of my second post is about........me!
I dont know where to start. I'm not very articulate when it comes to putting fingers to keyboard ( I got a C in GCSE English!!). I just wanted to put down my thoughts regarding me and my religion and the things that I face on a day to day basis. I am not sure if there are any other blogs out there on the same subject but this is for me and anyone else who is bored out of their minds and have nothing better to do than read my drivel!
The subject of my second post is about........me!
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